Friday, August 7, 2009

Tough Love

This is going to be a ranting and raving post. Because I've had it with my almost 3 year old. She has woken us up sometime between 1:00 and 3:00 am every night for the past 3 nights. And stayed awake for over 2 hours, asking for ridiculous things to bring to bed with her, wanting stories read to her, wanting a drink, medicine, and to "fix her covers". And then, her newest thing lately that just makes me absolutely, insanely livid - if we look the least bit displeased, she starts crying and saying "don't be mad" - over and over and over again. And now she's started with this "I need Mommy to come give me a hug and kiss" - so I go in and give a hug and kiss. As I leave "I need Daddy to give me a hug and kiss" - the kid is so ridiculous I can't even stand it!
We've been trying to just keep her quiet, afraid she'll wake Mya up, so we still have a baby monitor in her room. Because when Mya was littler, she would wake up at the slightest sound and it was hard to get her back down - we just kind of got used to the monitor. Which I know is absolutely ridiculous. She used to be such a good sleeper - she would go down easily at 8:00 and I wouldn't hear a peep out of her until 9:00. What happened????
So I decided this morning around 5:25 that we need to Supernanny our way through this with a little tough love. Today I'm taking EVERYTHING out of her bed except for her blankets. Every night she will get to choose 1 toy to take to bed with her. I know what will happen - she will scream. She will scream at the top of her lungs, and possibly wake Mya up. Oh well. Right now, we put her down at 8:00, read about 10 books to her, and then constantly go in and out for 2 hours until she finally gives up and goes to sleep. I can tell she's just pushing her boundaries, trying to figure out what to say and do to keep us in her room as long as possible. And no more baby monitor. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, she can cry her fool head off. We probably won't hear her unless it's pretty loud. And if that's the case, then we'll deal with it. I'm so sick of tip-toe-ing around her, trying to keep her happy, and now she's just walking all over us. And I am NOT that kind of parent.
Wish us luck, we're seriously going to need it.


Carrie Medford said...

I don't know how you do it with 2 girls with strong personalities. I have one and am ready to pull my hair out. Good luck!

Strong Family - said...

I know I never comment, but I love keeping up with you guys and feel like I'm getting to know some Strong cousins. We've been going through the same thing with Connor...I mean him waking up in the middle of the night again and not wanting to take naps. Last night he woke up twice screaming. He learned how to open door locks now, so I just go and stand outside and hold it. There's also a baby gate up so he can't get out before I get to his room. It started out a couple of weeks ago taking 1/2 hour to an hour for him to fall asleep. Now he screams for a couple of minutes and then goes right back to sleep. He's even had a couple of nights of not waking up at all again. So be strong and stick to your guns. I'll be thinking about you if I'm up. :-) Lauree Strong

j. said...

you go, girl! obviously, i don't know anything about child raising, but i think if i were in this situation, i would do the same thing. and that's what my 'understanding children' class that i took this semester would tell you to do, too.

love you mucho!! see you tonight!

Lindsay said...

Yes yes, good luck!! If you can be strong for even just a week it will be so much better. I know that just a week even seems completely tortuous so good luck! I think you're absolutely right in your ideas.

Kris & Amy Morris said...

I totally agree you are doing the right thing even though it is hard! These little ones learn very early how to push our buttons & you have to stay strong & stick to your guns! Good luck! I hope you will see results soon!
And, if you'd like a private viewing of the nutcracker ballet, I'd be happy to share my wonderful talent! LOL!!!!!!

Amy E. said...

It's NOT fun listening to the crying and screaming in the middle of the night. ESPECIALLY if you are worried about another waking too. I wish you luck on tough love. I know you can do it and IT'S WORTH IT!!!